Akshita Mengi
The basic unit of society is a family and the individual is the sole essence of that family. Every individual wants to lead a peaceful and a happy life but in pursuit of leading a desirable Life everyone wants to give his best and burns mid night oil for the same. But in today’s competitive life which is filled with stresses , both from within the family and outside, many a times one fails to pass with flying colours.
Though a couple of factors are responsible for disturbing peace in family, but the two key factors are- expectations and comparisons in families. What do you think! Giving big sermons to children or to compare them with others and to force them to follow the footprints of theirs,will help them to follow the path of success? No! Absolutely Not! comparisons will only make them feel inferior and will discourage them. Gone are the times when children idealised their siblings or the elders and followed them . This was may be due to their lack of confidence or lack of clarity regarding different aspects if life. But today it’s not so, no one likes to be harassed mentally through comparisons.
Rather everyone wants to move ahead through the means of little encouragements and persuasions . So it has to be realised by each one of us that every person is a different entity, having his own point of view, tastes, beliefs, ideas, flaws and strengths. So diversity has to be respected and encouraged rather than imposing values from above which can never encourage today’s youth .Always remember ! Life is like a roller coaster,there are many ups and downs. You will fall down certain times, will burn into ashes many times but, don’t lose hope!..try to be yourself again,try to betray your weaknesses And come up like a lion! As you know no one is perfect neither you , nor me. Everyone has some weaknesses, untold anecdote and some unrevealed truths .People will try to make a game of you, discourage you and more over will point out your flaws and imperfections in public. So what,let them! They are just making fool of themselves and showing how big louts they there . But don’t just put your hands up or give up on yourself.
Keep on blowing your own trumpet.face it! Challenge life itself. Once you will betray it, you would be on the top of the world. Sometimes it would seem very difficult, hard times would come but you have to face that obstacle and by a lot of determination and will power you have to remove it from your path of desires. Besides, the comparisons , another problem faced by today’s youth is expectations. Family expects a lot from you , they may not have been successful in their lives but want you to fulfil the desires of theirs. But many people fail to do so and end up in getting deviated from the right track and that’s the worst part.
So please! let your child live naturally and what he actually is and let the scintillating sunlight fall on him without any barrier and help him In growing naturally without impositions, comparisons and expectations. I’m sure! he is going to do the best one day provided you give him space to breathe and a space to grow.
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